Maybe it’s social media and being able to watch friends (and non-friends) go about their every day lives, 24/7 and share their successes that sometimes makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.
Working in influencer marketing, I see a lot of young social media stars buying their first house (in London) at 20 years of age. Or buying their first car which is a range rover. Or I see friends from home getting married, buying homes and having babies.
All whilst I’m sat in my rented flat in London that I can hardly afford. I start to chastise myself and think, I should be doing so much more, or I should be farther along than where I am right now.
But then I take a breather and remind myself of some of the below points that I’ve listed out.
Why you feel like you’re not doing enough
Firstly, let’s look at why we sometimes feel like we’re not doing enough, or we feel like we’re behind.
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to always be performing at our best. Or we put pressure on ourselves to do everything, when in reality we can’t.
On the other hand, there’s also societal pressure that makes us think we should be at a certain stage of our lives than perhaps we are.
Another form of pressure is trying to make everything as perfect as it can be. But sometimes completing something is better than doing it perfectly.
Perhaps the most likely reason as to why we often feel like we’re not doing enough. Comparing yourself to friends and family, or even people you follow online can be soul-destroying.
Remember, you’re only seeing their highlight reel – not their full story.
Here are 7 reminders for when you feel like you’re not doing enough
1. It’s not a race
In the whirlwind of life, it’s easy to get caught up in the race for success. But, remember this: life is not a sprint; it’s a marathon.
Your journey is uniquely yours, and comparing your progress to others only adds unnecessary pressure. Take a deep breath, set your own pace, and relish in the fact that every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory in itself.
2. Comparison is the thief of joy
Theodore Roosevelt once wisely said, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and how right he was. When you constantly measure your worth against the achievements of others, you rob yourself of the joy that comes with your own accomplishments.
Embrace your individuality, focus on your growth, and watch as the beauty of your journey unfolds without the shadows of comparison.
3. You are right where you’re meant to be
It’s easy to feel lost or behind, especially in a world that glorifies instant success. Pause for a moment and realize that every twist and turn in your life has led you to this exact moment.
You are right where you’re meant to be, and every experience—be it a triumph or a challenge—is a building block shaping your unique story and the chapters of your life.
4. Make a list of your achievements
In the hustle of daily life, it’s common to overlook our own accomplishments. Take a moment to grab a pen and paper, or open a note on your phone, and list your achievements.
No matter how seemingly small or routine, each entry is a testament to your capabilities. This exercise not only boosts your morale but also provides a tangible reminder of your journey’s richness and gives you something to look back on at the end of each year.
5. Be kind and realistic with yourself
Imagine if you spoke to yourself as you would to a close friend or loved one. Beating yourself up over perceived shortcomings only adds unnecessary weight.
Instead, be kind and realistic. Understand that everyone faces challenges and that setbacks are not a sign of failure but an opportunity for growth. Treat yourself with the same compassion you extend to others.
6. Do fewer things but better
Quality over quantity is not just a mantra for work; it’s a guiding principle for life. The pressure to juggle numerous tasks often leaves us feeling stretched thin.
Consider focusing on fewer things but doing them exceptionally well. The satisfaction derived from giving your best to a select few endeavours outweighs the stress of spreading yourself too thin.
7. Stop putting pressure on yourself
Release the grip of self-imposed pressure. The weight of unrealistic expectations can stifle creativity and joy. Set achievable goals, celebrate small victories, and understand that it’s okay not to have everything figured out.
Life is a journey of discovery, and your path may have unexpected turns. Embrace the uncertainties, and free yourself from the burden of unnecessary pressure.
Remember, you are enough, and your journey is a masterpiece in progress. Embrace it, celebrate it, and savour every step you take. Life’s worth is not measured by the speed at which you move but by the richness of the experiences you gather along the way.