This is something I’ve been dealing with for the last few years. Just because something I so desperately want to happen, hasn’t happened, doesn’t mean that it won’t in the future.
It can be a hard pill to swallow and difficult to accept, especially when it’s something you really want. But I’m slowly learning to come to terms with the fact that maybe it just isn’t the right time.
Since it’s something that’s constantly on my mind, I thought I would air my thoughts out in a blog post, but also give some words of advice if you happen to be feeling something similar.
I could be vague about what it is that I want and be cryptic, but you’re too clever for that and I want to be transparent with you when writing this.
However, visas are extremely hard to come by or achieve, especially in this financial climate when big businesses are cutting jobs and not able to facilitate expensive moves to another continent and one of the most expensive cities in the world.
It’s (unbelievably) been three years since we moved back from New York, and I’ve been itching to move back permanently ever since. Three years on and I’m starting to accept that although it isn’t happening as quickly as I would like, it still doesn’t mean that it won’t happen in the future.
How to deal with it
Change your mindset. That’s the only way I’ve learnt to deal with it. It’s been frustrating and disappointing most of all, especially when I really want to get out of London but I’ve told myself that it just isn’t happening yet.
It will, but just not yet. Maybe there’s a reason why it isn’t happening. Maybe we’re destined to go and see other parts of the world first, before we move back to New York. Or maybe that’s our sign to see more of Europe, or to travel Asia before we go and set up home in New York.
Otherwise, we may never get the chance to do that travel again as New York will be incredibly expensive to live in.
Well, that’s what I’m telling myself anyway.
When manifesting doesn’t work
But moving back to New York has been something I’ve been visualising, manifesting and speaking out loud for the longest amount of time (three years to be exact) and it hasn’t come to fruition.
Does that mean manifesting doesn’t work? Does that mean I don’t hold the power of attraction anymore?
Of course not, but I’m not going to stop manifesting this goal because I know it will happen eventually.
If it’s meant to be, it will
If it’s meant to happen, then it will. Like I said above, it just might not happen as quickly as I want it to.
I truly believe there is a reason for everything and that life works in mysterious ways. Often, when things don’t work out how I want them to and I am forced to take a different path, it’s not until afterwards I realise that that happened because it was meant to happen that way.
That things actually worked out for the best that way and that was the best possible outcome.
I do truly think that New York not happening for me yet is forcing me to change direction and to look at things differently.
Stop being in such a rush
New York isn’t going anywhere. It will be there in five, ten and fifteen years. Those are years that I could spend living in Europe, or living in Asia or living in Australia before I move back to New York.
I know that New York and America is where I want to live and end up, so what’s the rush in getting there by the time I’m 26?
There’s so much more of the world to see before I move there permanently and that’s what I plan to do. I’ve accepted that I’m not going to move back to NYC tomorrow and that I should take this time to see the rest of the world before I eventually settle down there.
Because it will happen. Even if it hasn’t happened already, it will at some point.